One of the fun things about fiction is that people we'd want to punch in the face in real life are likeable, even loveable, as characters. It's doable. Even though yes, sometimes I wonder what in the world possessed me to send Rayojini into play first (and then I remember, it's because the other character I was considering is basically Angry African Jesus). I know I as a reader even though I love my characters who are extremely cute/caregiving/sweet (hi Corbie), there's always something affirming about seeing characters who are like me. I'm going into teaching and I love my babies very much, but I've got quieter ways of showing it. Probably another reason I like Storm's characters. (Also what other things have you read/are you going to read?! :O I must know!)

I think you should just go for it and see if the character needs to be adjusted later. If you try to make a character that people immediately gel to, you're just going to end up with the same protagonist we always get because everyone knows it always works.